Think about it. Why are women spending hours in front of the mirror? Why are they taking pictures and posing for social media 24/7, why are they buying provocative clothes and spending so much money on makeup and skirts? They must want something. They must crave for something. That something is attention.
They are addicted to that feeling they feel when someone gives them a compliment. Especially someone with value. The more attention a woman is getting, the more addictive she is. And as you may guess, sex is the ultimate validation, last proof that she is worth.
Let’s talk about how you can use that to your advantage.
Never Give Your Full Validation To A Girl
Not even when you are about to marry her. Always keep her on the leash.
Let’s say you meet a girl at some house party. She is responsive and you are seducing her. It goes well, she is interested in you. You tease her, give her emotions, build rapport, but you never validate her. In other words, you don’t kiss her, you don’t give her compliments.
This is all a game. The only way you show that you are interested in her is by being physical. But you never verbalize it. You have focus and you are silently seducing her. And still, she doesn’t feel like she’s got you or that you want to sleep with her. Only then you become a challenge. If you feel she is attracted to you in any way, all you have to do is not validate her. You can play with her but we will come to that in a minute.
After 2 hours, it’s time to go to bed and she wants to sleep with you. You have bigger value than her. You look better. In fact, you are better.
Now, you enter the room and still look at her like she is not worth, like she is the little girl that will take her clothes off for you, just so she can feel validated. She wants you to say: “take your clothes off”. Take that shirt off. You are still sitting like a cool man, relaxed, cold. You can do whatever you want to her. And only when you enter her she can feel like she’s finally won, she feels attractive and worth.
This has been field tested a lot of times. You will be surprised at how good this works. The only thing women needed to survive in the old times is to be attractive, or to be more precise, to look good enough for alpha to make her a child. Same as today. So whenever you gave her a compliment, biology reward her with a good feeling.
Don’t Validate Her
But, what does an average guy do? He kisses a girl at the start of a night, makes out with her a lot and says how much he likes her and validates that bitch. And then he asks himself, how come he didn’t end up in a bed with her? How come she later went in a club with some other guys? Why would she need him, when he has already validated her? When he has already gave her his whole attention to her.
We have said so many times that with women, less is more. So, why didn’t you ignore her a bit? You saw that she wants you, so why did you give her everything she wants, dummy? Don’t kiss her like a little child every minute, instead of that, plan on how you will get laid.
This is a psychological game, and as we said before, women don’t have anything more valuable than sex and will give it to the guy from whom they want to feel validated. The guy that in their opinion can make their life better and safer.
Everyone should know how this game works. Even when you are meeting some girl and plan to get into LTR with her, this validation stuff still applies. You can’t validate her at the start, you validate her when she takes her clothes off. You lead how fast things go. When she does something cool, you validate her, give her a little kiss. When she is creating drama, and bitching around, soft next is what you do, ignore her. And that’s how you train her to do what you want. That’s how you play this game.
The hardest part about validation game is the temptation to escalate or compliment her. Don’t do it. Wait a little longer, it will pay off trust me.
Validation is a tricky thing. It works beautifully on hot girls. I meet so many gorgeous women, that most of you would say, “God, I would give her everything.” Then I will play a validation game with her, I will ignore her the whole night. And when she says something, I will crush her with some comment. Then she sinks more in her head and feels like she is not worth. And I will continue to destroy her whenever she says something. When she is about to cry, I give her a smile and let her know that she is cool.
And when she starts to seek my attention, I will give it to everyone in the room except for her. Later, I tell her to come with me in the room. And there she looks like she is begging for me to fuck her. No matter how hard it is to keep your discipline and not validate her, if she is responding to this, continue until you two are alone.
I also had girls that are really hot, that think they are queens and that every guy wants them (which is almost correct). They physically attacked me because I didn’t give her validation, they wanted to punch me, throw stuff at me and all, only because I’m ignoring her and her friends are loving me, so she doesn’t know what else to do. You would be surprised what comes out from women’s mouths when you are doing this to her, they go full crazy mode. They become brutal, hysterical.
Kiss Them Only When They Start Crying
Some of them even start to cry, just to grab some attention. I would hug them and talk to them, ask them why are they crying, and then we just kiss. I was kissing a girl while she cried and it was simply amazing.
When you take attention from women they are lost, they usually start to act like children. Most of the time she asks herself why is he ignoring me, doesn’t he like me? Why, am I not pretty enough? Later, when I tell her to bring me something or to do something for me, they do it without arguing, only because I didn’t validate her.
The more value you have, the more your opinion is important to her. Obviously, this is not going to work if you are homeless on a street. In other words, work on yourself.
Those guys who can play this game right will have a big success because when you win a girl psychologically, you can do whatever you want to her. She becomes your play doll then.
But if you are the one who seeks approval or validation, you can’t do anything. No one gives a shit about you. Work on your self image.
Remember, NEVER give a woman your full validation. If you do, you are gone.