The Validation Game | Never Give Your Full Validation To A Woman

Sign that says "validated"


Think about it. Why are women spending hours in front of the mirror? Why are they taking pictures and posing for social media 24/7, why are they buying provocative clothes and spending so much money on makeup and skirts? They must want something. They must crave for something. That something is attention.

They are addicted to that feeling they feel when someone gives them a compliment. Especially someone with value. The more attention a woman is getting, the more addictive she is. And as you may guess, sex is the ultimate validation, last proof that she is worth.
Let’s talk about how you can use that to your advantage.

Never Give Your Full Validation To A Girl

Not even when you are about to marry her. Always keep her on the leash.
Let’s say you meet a girl at some house party. She is responsive and you are seducing her. It goes well, she is interested in you. You tease her, give her emotions, build rapport, but you never validate her. In other words, you don’t kiss her, you don’t give her compliments.

This is all a game. The only way you show that you are interested in her is by being physical. But you never verbalize it. You have focus and you are silently seducing her. And still, she doesn’t feel like she’s got you or that you want to sleep with her. Only then you become a challenge. If you feel she is attracted to you in any way, all you have to do is not validate her. You can play with her but we will come to that in a minute.

After 2 hours, it’s time to go to bed and she wants to sleep with you. You have bigger value than her. You look better. In fact, you are better.

Now, you enter the room and still look at her like she is not worth, like she is the little girl that will take her clothes off for you, just so she can feel validated. She wants you to say: “take your clothes off”. Take that shirt off. You are still sitting like a cool man, relaxed, cold. You can do whatever you want to her, even treat her as an object. And only when you enter her she can feel like she’s finally won, she feels attractive and worth.

This has been field tested a lot of times. You will be surprised at how good this works. The only thing women needed to survive in the old times is to be attractive, or to be more precise, to look good enough for alpha to make her a child. Same as today. So whenever you gave her a compliment, biology reward her with a good feeling.

Don’t Validate Her

Quote "confidence is silent. Insecurity is loud.

But, what does an average guy do? He kisses a girl at the start of a night, makes out with her a lot and says how much he likes her and validates that bitch. And then he asks himself, how come he didn’t end up in a bed with her? How come she later went in a club with some other guys? Why would she need him, when he has already validated her? When he already gave her his whole attention.

We have said so many times that with women, less is more. So, why didn’t you ignore her a bit? You saw that she wants you, so why did you give her everything she wants, dummy? Don’t kiss her like a little child every minute, instead of that, plan on how you will get laid.

This is a psychological game, and as we said before, women don’t have anything more valuable than sex and will give it to the guy from whom they want to feel validated. The guy that in their opinion can make their life better and safer.

Everyone should know how this game works. Even when you are meeting some girl and plan to get into LTR with her, this validation stuff still applies. You can’t validate her at the start, you validate her when she takes her clothes off. You lead how fast things go. When she does something cool, you validate her, give her a little kiss. When she is creating drama, and bitching around, soft next is what you do, ignore her. And that’s how you train her to do what you want. That’s how you play this game.

The hardest part about validation game is the temptation to escalate or compliment her. Don’t do it. Wait a little longer, it will pay off trust me.

Validation is a tricky thing. It works beautifully on hot girls. I meet so many gorgeous women, that most of you would say, “God, I would give her everything.” Then I will play a validation game with her, I will ignore her the whole night. And when she says something, I will crush her with some comment. Then she sinks more in her head and feels like she is not worth. And I will continue to destroy her whenever she says something. When she is about to cry, I give her a smile and let her know that she is cool.

And when she starts to seek my attention, I will give it to everyone in the room except for her. Later, I tell her to come with me in the room. And there she looks like she is begging for me to fuck her. No matter how hard it is to keep your discipline and not validate her, if she is responding to this, continue until you two are alone.

I also had girls that are really hot, that think they are queens and that every guy wants them (which is almost correct). They physically attacked me because I didn’t give her validation, they wanted to punch me, throw stuff at me and all, only because I’m ignoring her and her friends are loving me, so she doesn’t know what else to do. You would be surprised what comes out from women’s mouths when you are doing this to her, they go full crazy mode. They become brutal, hysterical.

An angry woman is yelling

Kiss Them Only When They Start Crying

Some of them even start to cry, just to grab some attention. I would hug them and talk to them, ask them why are they crying, and then we just kiss. I was kissing a girl while she cried and it was simply amazing.

When you take attention from women they are lost, they usually start to act like children. This is precisely why ghosting is so powerful. Most of the time she asks herself why is he ignoring me, doesn’t he like me? Why, am I not pretty enough? Later, when I tell her to bring me something or to do something for me, they do it without arguing, only because I didn’t validate her.

The more value you have, the more your opinion is important to her. Obviously, this is not going to work if you are homeless on a street. In other words, work on yourself.

Those guys who can play this game right will have a big success because when you win a girl psychologically, you can do whatever you want to her. She becomes your play doll then.

But if you are the one who seeks approval or validation, you can’t do anything. No one gives a shit about you. Work on your self-image.

Remember, NEVER give a woman your full validation. If you do, you are gone.





  1. Hey man what should I do when a women calling you gay and playing arrogant if you’re not giving her validation, Also the virgin rules that If you’re not thirsty you’re gay kinda ruin this game especially with hot women that thinking they are princess and will claim you’re gay, How to ignore that?

    • they are testing the water by calling you ,, this and that ,, show them this will not break your will.

  2. Just be yourself. You can pretend to ignore a woman but they will know you are purposely doing it when everyone in the room is looking at them but you. They know this game well. They created it.

  3. This attention woman is trying to seek my validation by asking me to donate money to st jude hospital. I said no i am focused on achieving my goals now she asking how much can i afford? How do i stop her from setting me up

  4. This was clearly written by a psychopath that wants to punish hot women because he was not able to get one by being himself. ‘Pick-up artists’ like you think you’re being slick but the fact that you have to go to lengths like this to get a woman interested in you indicates you, yourself, acknowledge that your true identity is a failure.

    • On the contrary i think your just butt hurt that this guy has uncovered the craft of women and is simply helping inexperienced youths with women. Because in a all honesty women are weird and confusing.

    • this stuff doesn’t work. It’s just giving 90 percent of men false hope. In reality you got it or you don’t. Confidence is key. Don’t overthink women. Strike while the iron is hot. Women tend to get bored easily. Also remember the best baseball players ever have only batted .300 🙂 but still they’re great. The best of the best in the pick up game still fail 7 out of 10 times.

  5. Some guy did this to me and I walked the fuck away. We dated for 3 months, and he was a good looking, successful cop with his own place, nice body, car, etc. He was completely self-absorbed and he did all of the things you mentioned and basically tried to break me down so I would eventually “beg” or long for his validation. After a few weeks of dating, I felt like I was walking on egg shells and despite how good looking and perfect he seemed, my gut was telling me to leave. He poured his love and affection on to me about as quickly as he took it away and thought I come begging for him to take me back after he ignored me. This is manipulative and can lead to controlling, abusive behavior. “When I tell her to do something for me..?” What the fuck you sound like a narcissistic psychopath. Who even thinks of doing this? Girls are very intuitive and can pick up on this stuff. We have sexual needs too so it’s not all about you when we decide to sleep with you. Sorry to break it you but you ignore us long enough we’ll move on to someone else with a healthier ego. Thank you, NEXT.

    • Bullshit. You women are the biggest liars on the planet and sit there acting all innocent, not even gonna get into the feminist bullshit the media has been throwing on the world for so long. Katie, you’re the type of girl who says she wants a “nice, caring guy” yet when one shows up, you flake on him and end up going with the narcissistic bad boy with a bunch of tattoos who doesn’t give you validation as easily, but you know you enjoy the thrill. Of course, you would never admit that because it comes off as “slutty and socially unacceptable”. Girls are very, very manipulative and they have to be in a lot of ways biologically. We as men can either play their game or get played. I guarantee you if your ex comes back in the future with a booty call, your ass is over to his house with the snap of your fingers. Start judging your own self (and gender) before you start judging others.

    • Sorry “Katie”…but I’m with James on this one. You girls play games both consciously and subconsciously…you lie (whether you realize it or not)…and the hotter you are the worse it is. At times I have sworn that if I ever become single again, I will only get with an average-looking and/or nerdy woman in order to minimize all of the bullshit. Yall seek attention and manipulate constantly…so the dudes who choose to employ this tactic are simply countering the manipulation with their own. Finally, he’s absolutely right about women always pathetically claiming that they want “a guy who is nice and takes care of me” or some bullshit like that. Gthoh. No one is buying that crap anymore. Women are backwards as hell. You crave and want attention, but the guy who gives you attention is the first one with whom you will lose interest. Stop wasting everyone’s time, stop making yourselves look so pathetic, and just admit what you really want already. We all know it.

  6. Wow! How sad that ‘men’ actually think this is good advice. Deliberately making a woman doubt their worth and pretending to be someone else to get laid by them? Then what happens when you cant keep up the facade and she finds out that your actually just desperate? It’s going to be a lonely life for the boys who take this advice when they finally grow up.
    Be yourself.

    • Guys who do this wont flunk and appear desperate because the lady will have already proven to be the desperate one seeking validation and will always seek it. I commend the post as i see it as a way of restoring men to their former glory, men have been underrated throughtout the ages simply over the fact that these beautiful are a task by themselves due to their complication. Every man is a king and kings who have no interest in drama or delay. If a man wants a woman it shouldnt be hard for him. As a matter a fact women are the ones who should be pursuing men. Alot of us men have power beyond we can even imagine so bringing men back to that realization would actually make the world a better place.

      • Jake, with all due respect, you sound like a psychopath. Wouldn’t a “King” be able to be himself and find a Queen, or better yet, the Queen would come to him?
        The kind of relationship you describe sounds like emotional abuse.

  7. Man… usually I don`t comment on some articles that I read. But as a study of this subject you are right. I share the same perception and realization from the women that I met before. The ones that come here to comment the opposite are the ones refusing to admit they act this way. Perhaps on a refusal to admit on the truth.

  8. Women who complain about this are shit testing( without them explicitly knowing it).Women’s attraction has to be manipulated and controlled by her Man, else they will find someone else,despite all their protests to the contrary.All the evidence points to it.
    Abusive behavior only occurs if he is physically assaulting her or insulting and shouting at her.The validation holding game has nothing to do with that.Women are attracted to Men who they perceive as above them (men who lead).Validating her indicates that she is now above her man and hence her attraction falls.One million years of human evolution cannot be wiped off with egalitarian or feminism.Learn the game or become a victim to it.

  9. He is not lying I have had women ridiculously attracted to me. Simply by being about my business & showing them lil to no interest whatsoever. The hotter or more attention/advances she got from other men on the regular. The more she was like this isn’t normal for me. An was completely shock & surprised by running into a serious yeah whatever stop playing with yourself & me attitude that wasn’t a front or just for show. Plus the ones who turn angry & resentful towards you. Just bc they want to sleep with you. An you don’t even find her up to par for even a casual sex encounter. Then the name shaming starts he’s gay or he’s a lame. No I actually have standards which you don’t meet. Last it’s also why on average guy’s tend to attract more women & higher quality women. By simply being all about their grind/purpose in life. An not even pursuing women at all whatsoever.

  10. Dog, if it takes all this, I’ll just stay single. I’m not playing all these fucking mind games with people

  11. Dude. Walked in to a bar last night with some friends. I was so wasted so I sat back and studied the room. Women are always working. They are hoes by night and will keep it a secret with each other. Don’t approach. It’s a waste of time. They just want to be seen. When they got bored or insecure they just pulled out their phone and pretended to text

  12. I’m afraid everything said here is the absolute truth.. Why? Because we’re biologically conceived that way. Women are naturally submissive (not said in a bad way) an a man has to take the lead. That’s how attraction is built. Unfortunately society, media and everything else are feminising men and the roles are reversed. Women think they’re entitled to everything and that’s where the nice guy/bad guy problem starts. We’ve been wired for decades by parents and society to treat a women like a queen and do everything.. But they forgot one detail. She’s not entitled to shit UNITL she your wife or GF. A women needs to earn your attention and should be the one pursuing bottom line. At the end, they always do the choosing.. “Don’t give emotional intimacy if there’s not physical contact” attention seeking/flakyness and all that crap, simple, turn around, walk away and never look back. Take care of your stuff and yourself and you will attract.

  13. Men who doubt this works tend to be the simple minded type who never gets female validation and ignoring them is impossible for his thirsty ass. The females commenting are angry and ‘butthurt’, for lack of a better word, that more and more men ste waking up to their bullshit and seeing how powerful true and sincere indifference is.

  14. I think the article is telling the truth but it is a hard one for women to realise what really happens. I do not want to be that kind of guy who manipulates but I know if I give attention to a girl I want, she will eventually dismiss me.

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